What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?

The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1)   There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2)   You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.

(3)   You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4)   Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

Are You Asking Her The Right Questions?

OK.  You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile.  You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact.  What now?  How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all?  You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is.  It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions.  You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that. 

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?”  Listen carefully to her answers.  She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general. 

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?”  Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong. 

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?”  If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect.  If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same.  If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer.  Move forward but always with caution.

Online Dating Advantages For Women

In the past, i.e. the 1990’s, online dating was a brand new idea. Unlike today, most people did not own PC’s or even have access to the internet. Times have changed. Online dating is not only IN the mainstream, it IS the mainstream.

There are many reasons for the phenomenal growth of online dating sites and the number of people, men and women of all ages, races and religions who use them as their primary source for meeting people and looking for “the one”.

If you don’t believe me, just ask your friends in the “real” world. If they are honest, most of them will tell you they have or are using an online dating service.

Here are three good reasons why thousands of people sign up for dating services everyday:

(1)   You can be anonymous. You will never be required to give your real name, address, email address, phone number or place of employment to another online user. You, of course, may do so but only at your own discretion and only when you feel completely safe. You are not required to post a picture of yourself. Posting a picture, however, will get more responses to your profile. So you can surf through the other members on the dating site you have joined with complete anonymity.

(2)   You have so many more choices online that you do in your brick and mortar world. Before the world of online dating came of age, the choice of friends and even of lifetime partners was limited to those we came in contact with through college or work. No more…the world is your oyster. You can go through hundreds…even thousands of profiles to find the right man for you.

(3)   The “safety factor” is the biggest reason of all. An online dating service will never reveal your personal information. You get to choose who has that information and when they have it.

Mr. Perfect Doesn't Exist!

The sooner you realize this sad but true fact, the sooner you can get on with finding Mr. Close-Enough-To-Perfect. Prince Charming, riding on a white stallion, lost his way or found Princess Charming and got married on his way to your castle. Get over it and get on with it. You ARE going to have to actively seek the man of your dreams and you won’t find him hiding under your bed. You already know that he isn’t among the men that you are acquainted with so, now what? Online dating is “what”.

It’s true that online dating, while in its infancy, was only made up of perverts, sexual predators, nerds and weirdos but that is no longer true. It has become the main tool of the single person in every developed country in the world. Forty million people can’t all be wrong. Ask your girl friends if they have ever used online dating or are using it now. If they are honest with you, most of them have or are now members of at least one online dating site and maybe more than one. It really is the way to go to meet eligible men who want to meet you. It doesn’t matter what any of your numbers are…like age, height, weight or income either. Somewhere out there in the big wide world there is a man who will like you…..then love you….and think that you are beautiful and desirable. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” is true. What is considered beautiful in one part of the world is completely different from what is considered beautiful in another part of the world. It’s even different from one part of this country to another.

Find an online dating site that fits your needs. Write a great profile and post a flattering picture. Start contacting eligible men on the site. Mr. Close-enough-to-perfect could be a few mouse clicks away.

Don't Make These Online Dating Mistakes

While you search the internet for that special lady…the one of your dreams…your soul-mate…the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right.  Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong….things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart.   Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success.  However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter. 

There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary.  Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace.  Patience is the key. 

Nobody is perfect.  We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, as well.  If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed.  Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing.  Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine.  It won’t happen.  Expect flaws and just deal with them.  Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t. 

Little white lies and false fronts won’t work.  Be honest from the beginning of a relationship.  Write your profile.  Make it interesting but don’t make false statements.  The truth will come out eventually anyway.  If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure. 

Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.

Do Nice Guys Do It Too?

I’m talking about online dating, of course. When the phenomenon of online dating sites started several years ago, they were a haven for perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of assorted varieties.

That is just no longer the case. All the stigma of online dating is gone.  Online dating has gone main stream and is, not only acceptable, but expected. Online dating has become the primary tool of single people of all ages to generate an interesting and rewarding social life.

Let’s face it…we are busy guys. We just simply do not have the time, the energy, or the financial where-with-all to date several nights each week while we look for the “one”. You can sort through hundreds of profiles in a month for less money than you would spend on one evening out, thus, saving time and money. We use the internet to save ourselves time and money for a lot of things like investments, shopping, medical information, and communications.

Why not make use of such a useful tool for our social and personal lives as well? You could find the love of your life. At the very least, you will meet some interesting people and possibly make some lasting friendships.  It’s easy to get started. All you need is a computer and an internet connection. You’ll need to search for online dating services that meet your specific needs. They are many and varied.

Join one or two. Then you’ll need to write a great profile, upload a recent picture of yourself and start making and answering contacts. That really is all there is to it…that and patience.

Don’t wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life.  Miss or Ms. “Right” could be only a few clicks of the mouse away. 

Dating Online - Why It's the Best Way to Meet Other Singles in My Area

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We all know about the increase of online dating websites, there are now 100s of 1000s of companies competing with each other to offer me their matchmaking services, but why would I go online to look for singles in my area? I mean surely it's, well, just a little impersonal, or as bad as looking for car insurance online? I for one say yes it's like looking for an insurance quote, and to be really honest I'm glad it is!

You see I'm normal, I'm no Hollywood star look alike, I don't have the magnetism of a rock star, I'm normal, a little shy and really don't have all that much spare time. I've, in the past, done my dating by going to bars and clubs, except that now I've got to the age where I don't really fit in to the whole club scene anymore. I wouldn't know a great chat up line if it bit me. So I'm really no different than the vast majority of everyone else out there! And it's because of all of these things that the web is the perfect place for me, and you.

As I say I'm glad that by using the web to look for local singles in my area I accept that it's really no different than looking for the best car insurance quote. You see I happen to think the web is the perfect place for people to meet, and this is why.

With the web I get to sit where I like and take my time, not feel rushed or hassled. I know that if I join a good dating website I'll be able to take my time and search through 100's of profiles and pictures of others, who like me are single and looking for a relationship. Rather than being stood in a bar and having no idea if that great looking girl is single, married, or even looking for a date.

Next I'll be able to message the girls I like without the fear of getting embarrassed having to stand in front of a complete stranger in a bar. If they're not interested they'll just not answer me, hey no stress there. In fact this means I can message all of the girls I like, even all of the ones that I'd normally think were way out of my reach, I mean what have I got to lose?

All of the girls I'm looking at online are in fact not complete strangers at all, you see a good online dating website will have a really good profile for everyone, likes and dislikes, what makes them tick. Straightaway I can see if we have anything in common, again so much better than the blind date approach in a bar. And it goes both ways, before just ignoring my message a girl gets to see my picture and profile, I get a chance to sell my self, all from the comfort of my home.

I can talk to loads of other singles in my area, all at the same time, without having to feel guilty with chatting to more than one girl at the same time! With online dating my privacy is everything to a good dating website, no one can over hear, or even see how many other girls I'm talking to. Where I come from it's what we call not putting all your eggs in the same basket! With online dating I get the chance to increase my chances of finding that right person without wasting time or money.

Which leads me on to another thing, looking for local singles in my area online saves me a packet. OK a good online dating website will bill me a small monthly fee, but that's nothing compared to going out on the town night after night. Which is also another reason it's like looking for car insurance online, who wants to drive all over the town looking for the best deal!

Dating online lets me take my time, when I do begin to talk to girls I get the chance to take it all at the right pace before arranging to meet up. Now out on the town we all know what it's like to just start to chat to a great girl only to find that she's just about to move on somewhere else with her girlfriends, not online though.

So yes I agree that dating online can be a little like looking for cheap car insurance, but as you can see I happen to think it works for all the same reasons, its safe, secure and simply offers a much more effective way of doing things, go on give it a go, it could well lead to a lifetime of happiness.

This article is written by Brent Meheux, from 40 plus dating, you can find more of Brent's articles and dating advice at his website - http://www.40-plus-dating.co.uk/

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